She has been working beside me for about a year and a half. I am friends beside her. The problem is she has asked me to about 3 different outings: her bridal shower, her marriage, and, most recently, a jewelry party. Now, everytime she's working near someone but me, she likes to tell the story in the order of how I said I was not able to come to her jewelry celebration, yet her friend saw me at Wal-Mart. She had told me one-sidedly her friend saw me at Wal-Mart, but I didn't connect that fact to the fact that it be on the day of her party. Now she tell the others she called me out on it. To my face, she tell me it's okay, she understands, etc...Now she's a good Christian woman, but I don't realize why she's doing this talking. Not just is it a work issue, it's also a personal issue between us. She have done the same with others who work here and haven't gone to her outings, but if you try to articulate something to her, she acts like everything is fine. So what do I do? Call her from work? Call her while we're not at work? She may quit if I say aloud anything to her, but I'm tired of this. How do I deal with it best? I'm going crazy if I hold to hear her talking about me a different time.
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Answers: Since she is a Christian,You should follow the guidelines in Matthew 18 verses 15-17 almost how to confront someone of their sin. In this case, the sin is gossip. Show her the alley and let her know that you are following this outline.
First, confront her in private as her friend. Let her know that you come to her as a fellow Christian, not as her employer.
As her employer, you stipulation to let her know that this behavior is disruptive to the workplace and that you cannot allow it to continue, even if that mode terminating her.
You say, "Look, I am tired of audible range this "Wal-Mart" deal come up again and again. Please deal near it and move on."
If she quits, she quits. Enough is enough. How long do you want this problem to verbs? It's up to you to stop the madness.